I understand that people have preferences, but I do think that the preferences get in the way. Saying "all or none" isn't a good thing in any case. Race being one of them. If someone is single, the best thing you can do is keep an open mind about everyone. Compatibility should be one of the highest standards for… » 4/09/13 1:19pm 4/09/13 1:19pm

One of the hardest things to judge on OKC is interest. I've chatted it up with several people and you can just tell by the way they conducted themselves if they were interested. Some people are just nice and will have a conversation with you but in reality they aren't interested. » 4/08/13 10:16pm 4/08/13 10:16pm

Thanks for doing this. There was a conversation a couple of days ago about mental illness and you mentioned something along the lines that you didn't view it as something that needed to be fixed. (I might have been mistaken in terms of the point you were trying to make) You used a term for it that I can't remember… » 4/08/13 10:07pm 4/08/13 10:07pm

I wonder how it determines what is "read"? Do you have to click into the comment directly? Or does it count when someone is viewing a thread with many comments? I need to look that up. Where is my "Kinja for Dummies" book? » 4/08/13 11:52am 4/08/13 11:52am

Completely agree. I was looking at the open thread from last night on my phone. There were 77 discussions. I would have to click to the right seventy.....seven(!!!!) times to read them all. And I accidentally hit the back to beginning button instead of the back once button. There was no way to go back to where I… » 4/08/13 11:34am 4/08/13 11:34am

Speaking of Mr. Myths, Separately, I was wondering about Hugo Schwyzer yesterday as I realized we hadn't seen a post from him lately. I went to his blog and here is his tagline: » 4/06/13 9:02pm 4/06/13 9:02pm

I'm late to the party, but your point that those in a relationship shouldn't be writing articles approving the hookup culture was spot on. I didn't know that she had a boyfriend and definitely changes how I view the article. » 4/06/13 7:22pm 4/06/13 7:22pm

That, of course, depends on the definition of overweight. And that is different for different people. Even for women, I'm sure there is a point where someone becomes not attractive due to weight, even for those who consider themselves overweight. » 4/06/13 12:53pm 4/06/13 12:53pm

This article brings up an interesting question. When is a good time to bring up dealbreakers? First date? Later? I have trouble with the concept of two people listing them all on the first date, because doesn't that get in the way of having a good experience when everyone is focused on the negatives? I'm also… » 4/02/13 12:14pm 4/02/13 12:14pm

That sucks about his response. If you are uncomfortable, he should respect that. Just because a make out session happens doesn't mean it will continue down that path. All relationships should have a disclaimer like ads for mutual funds. "Past performance not indicative of future results." » 4/02/13 9:33am 4/02/13 9:33am